What happened and what she said...
I’ve got married when I was 16
years old, a child going to school, my dreams not clear yet, trying to discover
the basics of life and suddenly that wealthy groom who propose to my family
after spotting me in one party and he decides to own me, sorry, I mean to marry
me and it happened I didn’t agree at the beginning but my family convinced me
that, this is a great chance to live in a comfort zone and all my demands will be
achieved at once and it happens, I mean the marriage, but that little girl
returned back to her house within 6 months, my husband got bored and start to
look for a new catch and now one taught me how to save my marriage or so. I
went back to my family house holding the ugly description at the age of 17,
broken and feeling down, growing 10 years above my real age… feeling lost, and
what my family do, instead of helping me to pass by they decide to hand me to
the second man to become a wife for the second time… and this time, the
husband wants to have babies so he decides to marry me because I am young and
will be able to make his wish real but I was like the cattle that are driven to
their fate, no soul, no reaction and of course no feelings.. living with
someone that I have no connections no passion and can’t respond to any attempt
from his side until he gives up and it appears that I did not care less like I
don’t want to live not with him but with anyone… I was waiting the end, any
kind of end and it came so soon, within one year, no pregnancy happens, nothing
wrong with you, that’s what the doctor said but I am not ready yet, that what I
said to me, the end is coming I can see, it clear, this time because of no one
guides me no but because I don’t want even to try.
For the second time divorced,
lonely, lost and have no clue what is going to happen to me, but mostly what is
the point of my life so far, no education, no family and no future of course.
At this point my family stepped
away…, let’s say they felt a little bit guilty, or maybe they give up or lost
hope on me. don’t know but the important thing that I was left alone, living in
my room all day and night, … at that time, a hand reached to me, a rescue…left
me up, lighting my darkness moments… that’s was my youngest brother. For the past few years, he was watching but
couldn’t interfere…didnot have the right to talk or have an opinion in whatever
was decided for me… show the positive side of life, the bright side. The
important thing that, he succeeds to convince me that was not the end of life
and it is not my fault, I was the victim, did not have idea how to act at both
experience yet It never too late to shape my life again and force the people
around me to respect my new shape, my new ideas and my new character.
Now after 6 years, at the age of
23, I’ve finished my degree in English literature, working as a teacher and of
course thank you for my dearest brother, he was my rock, my friend, he was at my
back in all situation, if I want to give up, again he was my rock which he
never allows me to give up… if it wasn’t him don’t know what could happen to
me… I want to say if you find yourself in a hard situation, don’t give up, don’t
lose faith and God will send you the help in different types, there is always
good thing at the end.
What was my respond...
first of all, allow me to say
that, it wasn’t your fault, you didn’t own your decision at that time, but from
what I can see you’ve learned a lot from your experience… it was hard and very
tough what you went through but you manage to raise up and decide to do
something with your life, when believe and realized that this is not the end of
your life and still the good is coming…
Your rescues chain, at that time, was
your brother, the rock that you use to stand up and here you are, a successful
woman, start a new chapter in your life, closing the door at all the pain and the sorrow that, you’ve gone through. You are such a brave strong and independent
woman, who are ready to face the whole world and make a different.
Really I was delighted to receive
your letter, and insist to publish it to make your message reach as money as it
can…. A message for every parent, let your baby girl lives her life, help her
to make her own decisions, be the guide and watch from a distance, let her
learn from her mistakes and try to guide her wisely. Make bonds with her
brothers and sisters and when the right time comes and to be a wife teach her
how to become a wife, how to create a healthy family…., spread the love and
love them all
